#introspection skills

[serbadger]

FORMULA for ME

Ego:

1. Pause and ask: “Am I acting out of habit or considering other perspectives?”

2. Reflect: “What is my underlying emotion driving this decision?”

3. Seek input: Share your thoughts with a trusted person to gain broader perspectives.

4. Count to five before responding defensively to create space for reflection.

5. Physically ground yourself (e.g., place a hand on your chest) when feeling defensive.

6. Ask: “What would someone else think about this decision?”

7. Remember: Comfort zones maintain habits but often limit growth.

8. Write: Journal one decision where you noticed ego’s influence and how to improve it.

9. Question: “What am I not seeing about this situation?”

10. Celebrate moments where you listened or collaborated openly without ego.

Communication:

11. Speak in bullet points: Keep it concise and expand only when needed.

12. Pause after each thought to check if you’ve fully conveyed your message.

13. Practice paraphrasing: Repeat what someone says to confirm understanding.

14. Slow down: Take a breath before responding to avoid rushing through ideas.

15. Actively listen: Focus on the speaker without planning your reply.

16. Reframe misunderstandings: Clarify or rephrase instead of reacting emotionally.

17. Write and reread: Double-check for clarity when writing or typing.

18. Ask open-ended questions: Encourage deeper and clearer dialogue.

19. Reflect: “What could I have communicated better today?”

20. Set a daily goal to use one active listening technique (e.g., asking follow-ups).

These are bite-sized, actionable points to help you integrate your practices into daily life. Let me know if you’d like to refine or expand on any!

[heuldoch7b]

its hard being a silliness-inclined guy drawing stuff in a grimdark setting. i promise i absorb and understand the hard, horrible truthes of this setting, i think that really inclines me more to just. try to smidgen in moments of respite and joy in their miserable lives

[pratchettquotes]

Feeney thought about this on the ride home as his horse trotted gently toward the sunset. He wasn't a philosopher and couldn't even spell the word, but the voice of the goblin officer rang in his head. He thought, what would happen if goblins learned everything about humans and did everything the human way because they thought it was better than the goblin way? How long would it be before they were no longer goblins and left behind everything that was goblin, even their pots? The pots were lovely, he'd bought several for his mum. Goblins took pots seriously now, they sparkled, even at night, but what happens next? Will goblins really stop taking an interest in their pots and will humans learn the serious, valuable and difficult and almost magical skill of pot making? Or will goblins become, well, just another kind of human? And which would be better?

And then he thought, maybe a policeman should stop thinking about all this because, after all, there was no crime, nothing was wrong...and yet in a subtle way, there was. Something was being stolen from the world without anybody noticing or caring.

Terry Pratchett, Raising Steam

[waxminutes]

i think i would take the people complaining about ofmd fundraising a lot more seriously if they had ever at any point given me the impression that they could accomplish anything even close to what ofmd fans have. like im sorry that you got shown up by a bunch of fucking dweebs but i feel like the solution to this problem is getting organized and buying your own billboard or something instead of just Posting.

[joeku-xiv]

I can’t stop thinking how much shivers is a perfect skill for Kiryu

Everytime he wears his suit to protect everything he cares about, the fabric on his skin sending shivers on his body, and. The laughter of two friends drinking in a bar. A punk picking a fight on the streets to prove something. A homeless person setting his tend in a park. Kiryu cross the red gate that defined his fate long ago, breeze blowing on his face, shivers down his spine. Kids doing karaoke after a stressful day at school. A tired salaryman gets on the train, his family waiting him at home. To the west, on a distant beach, nine orphans trying to form two teams for a baseball game. Kiryu keeps marching towards the tower where his destiny began and will end

[marigoldbaker]

sometimes i feel like i've brushed my fingers very lightly against the way i'm perceived by someone who loves me, and every time it's a little dizzying to feel like that

[virgoes]

this week on the virgoes show: realized i’ve been “people pleasing” my whole life because i am so good at reading what other people want and providing them just that, and as a result have no idea what my identity is.

[skylar-jay]

I imagine the night sky in the Lupus Empire is really pretty :)

[razette]

I am unfortunately aware that my unresolved neuroses is affecting the way I am approaching reading. While my general desire is to read more broadly I am aware that I am approaching it as though I might recieve surprise pop quizes at unknown intervals.

This is anxiety around reading that Ive never struggled with before. I thrive in structured environments, so when I was in school I checked out a book from the library in the morning, read it during the day, and turned it in before I left. This was fine because someone else was incharge of structuring my day, and all I had to do was take advantage of time between tasks over the course of 8 hours. Well ive been out of school for over a decade at this point, and reading was forced on the back burner while I my health took precedence. While my reading comprehension seems mostly in tact, my ability to pick up a book has appearently atrophied along with a number of other skills.

In addition, ive previously preferred fantasy or romantasy, but now that Im older I also want a well rounded reading list. For one thing, my grandmother is giving me my grandfathers books. Theres a lot of books. interesting books! my love for myth & history stems from these books!

So obviously I created a chart with the intention of assembling a list by genre category first and narrowing that down to, say, an indie author rather than always picking up a traditionally published one. If Ive read a novel published in the last year perhaps I should also read a novel published before 1950. I have read many novels published before 1950, and there are more that I am interested in!

And this is fine, helpful even, but I am keenly aware that its also rooted in anxiety and just. neurotic in the truest neutral sense of the word.

The worst part is, Ive already decided I am going to listen to The Long Journey to a Small Angry Planet. Ive already made a decision! I bought the audio book.

I exhaust myself over nothing.

[shamelesslyblue]

Who said healing would look pretty?

- dedicated to D

You and I walking around the rail station – God, I could have swallowed you whole.

I could have inhaled you into my lungs.

You were so soft, so gentle, so simple and unremarkable.

Your face is stuck inside my fucking head and I wish I could erase you.

Your soft hands, with your long and slim fingers, holding my heart as your wilful captive.

I loved you like poetry, looked at you like you were art. I analysed you like my favourite subject.

My love language is understanding.

Your face is stuck inside my fucking head and I wish I could erase you.

Has your black heart ever been in someone’s hands, held with so much care and curiosity?

My love language is analysis.

My love language is two arms, always reaching, stretching out to the one I love.

Your face is stuck inside my fucking head and I wish I could erase you.

My love language is a train that never quite gets to the right destination.

God, how I would’ve liked you to stay, to be the one instead of just another lesson.

You will never know true love again - and that is your curse.

Your face is stuck inside my fucking head and I wish I could erase you.

Which curse do you think is worse?

Which ghost do you think is harder to live with?

The memory of you, haunting my heart

Or the absence of me, haunting yours?

[razedhell]

tags pt. 19 - warren

[razedhellaa]

tag drop - warren peace !!

[trauma-trove]

My ptsd got way better once I started hanging out with ppl my own age who, coincidentally, also had some of my issues. A lot of my friends are systems, autistic, dealt with physical and sexual abuse, etc. After a couple years spending more time with friends than I did in doctor's offices, I reread a lot of stuff I wrote during the worst of times and I wondered why I had such a hang up about victims not being believed. I started writing stories where someone comes out with something and they ARE believed and they're taken care of.

Now that I'm back in therapy, I'm remembering how hard it is to be believed. Like. Therapists don't even listen to you. I'm not being listened to. I'm not being believed. It makes sense why I wrote the stuff I did a few years ago. Now I'm wondering what to write now.

[cl0wnapologist]

its crazy i have mutuals on here. i feel like i never use my tags or say shit that has a recognizable voice. or post anything of my own LOL. and yet most of my engagement is from mutuals.... maybe ill say more stuff so u have a canon idea of me. i want to make more art. and write more. andhave 10million dollars. love you!

[nova-moon13]

[seriial]

i guessed weed would make me feel normal for 30 minutes i just did the math and it was 27 minutes before i spiraled again really so disappointed i was 3 minutes off 💔